Let’s look at some of the things that can stress introverts.
• Introverts are territorial. Someone cannot take your seat, move your stuff, lean on your desk, ignore your closed door or borrow your clothes without making you very angry.
• Introverts need time alone to recharge their batteries. If denied time alone, you may become irritable and depressed.
• Introverts value privacy. When your boundaries are disregarded, when someone has a loud personal conversation on their cell phone in your captive presence, such as waiting in the checkout line at the grocery store, you can be annoyed and offended.
• Introverts fear failure in public and experience deep humiliation because of it.
• Introverts prefer to communicate in writing. They may feel exhausted by too much verbal communication that “isn’t going anywhere”. Introverts hate small talk and cell phones.
• Introverts like to be prepared. If rushed to present a solution or opinion, they may be extremely uncomfortable and sometimes refuse to do so at all.
What are some of the ways that introverts restore balance?
• Introverts need to spend at least half their time alone for optimal good health
• Introverts love long trips, walks in nature and usually enjoy the company of animals. These activities restore their peace of mind and equilibrium.
• Introverts give energy when they are with people and need to be alone to recharge their batteries.
• Introverts need a room of their own with a door that closes.
• Introverts need to give themselves permission to communicate via email or in writing and to ignore phone calls or get a good answering machine.
• Decision making should take place without time pressure if possible. Introverts like to be prepared!